Letters from Students

Care Unit Juvenile Hall
Incarcerated Youth


I am responsible for how I feel and what I do. Nobody can make me feel anything. If I have a rotten day, I am the one who allowed it to be that way. If I have a great day, I am the one who deserves credit for being positive. It is not the responsibility of other people to change so that I can feel better. I am the one who is in charge of my life.

Making mistakes is something we all do, and I am still a fine and worthwhile person when I make them. There is no reason for me to get upset when I am going to continue trying, and if I make a mistake, I am going to continue trying. I can handle making a mistake. It is okay for others to make mistakes too. I will accept mistakes in myself and also mistakes that others make.

I will survive if things are different than what I want them to be. I can accept things the way they are, accept people the way they are and accept myself the way I am. There is no reason to get upset if I can"t change things to fit my idea of how they ought to be. There is no reason why I should have to like everything. Even if I don"t like it, I canlive with it.

I don"t need to watch out for things to go wrong. Things usually go just fine and when they don"t, I can handle it. I don"t have to waste my energy worrying. The sky won"t fall in, so things would be okay. I can. Even though I may be faced with difficult tasks, it is better to try than to avoid them. Avoiding a task does not give me any opportunities for success or joy but trying does. Things worth having are worth the effort. I might not be able to do everything, but I can do something.

I don"t need someone else to take care of my problems. I am capable. I can take care of myself. I can make decisions for myself. I can think for myself. I don"t have to depend on somebody else to take care of me. I don"t have to be a certain way because of what has happened in the past. Everyday is a new day. It"s silly to think I can"t help being the way I am. Of course I can. I can change.

There is more than one way to do something. More than one person has good ideas that will work. There is no one and only "best" way. Everybody has ideas that are worthwhile. Some may make more sense to me than others, but everyone"s ideas are worthwhile, and everyone has something worthwhile to contribute.